I had a great pregnancy. We barely had to even try, and I was pregnant. No vomiting, no nausea, and I was tired but it was bearable. I quit drinking all caffeine, and cut way back on the sugar. I was not showing at all, and I enjoyed keeping it my little secret. I didn't tell people at work until I was 20 weeks pregnant. Nobody had even guessed.
I worked full time. I modified my exercising, but kept running. I felt fine, no pain and I was keeping up with everything. My doctors appointments were all normal. Blood test were all normal. We found out we were having a little girl. She was wiggly on ultrasound, so we did two to get everything measured. I could feel her move all the time. We named her Kate. I started to talk to her on my way to work, during a run, or just when I was sitting watching t.v..
Week 23 of Gestation
Monday:
My pants were getting tighter and tighter, and I really shouldn't wear my normal pants anymore. Katie was always active especially at night, and every night I love feeling her move. I looked forward to just sitting down and feeling her move after dinner. I notice today that I am getting a little awkward at work, I couldn't bend over to get that Labrador up on the table. I couldn't even lean over and hold that cat down like I used to.
A client notice I was pregnant today!
Tuesday:
My feet are starting to hurt more and more often. I felt good during my weekly run around the lake, not bad for a girl over half way through her pregnancy. I wondered how long I could keep making it around the lake? Maybe up until 32 weeks pregnant? I'd have to ask at my next doctors appointment next week.
Wednesday:
Day off work, always lots to do to get ready for Kate. Boy, I am feeling really tired. And I have a strange feeling down almost in my pelvis. Is it a cramp, or is it her kicking? Maybe this is what a braxton hicks contraction is like? Sure sounds like what I read in my baby book. I think I will just sit down more today. Luckily those weird feelings seem to go away with some rest. I'll have to ask my doctor about that next week.
Pelvic pressure that feels like the baby is pushing down
Abdominal cramps that may occur with or without diarrhea
Thursday:
Back to work, boy we are busy. I feel so tired this week, I am glad there is a three day weekend and we are going away. I think I just need a few days off. Those weird feeling have come up a few times again but not consistantly. I feel it when I sit down now too. Sometimes its painful even and takes my by surprise. I am heading into the later part of pregancy and she is getting bigger so I bet I just have to get used to it.
I am having a lot of mucous like discharge when I am going to the bathroom. I read that you will have discharge changes in later pregnancy. This seems like a lot though. I think I will call the doctor when I get a second. At least there is no blood.
Watery fluid leaking from your vagina
Menstrual-like cramps
Unusual or sudden increase of vaginal discharge
Friday:
Thank goodness, just one more day until the three day weekend. I have to call the doctor today. I have had a lot of discharge still, and I feel something every-time I sit down. We are so busy at work though, I have six surgical procedure to get through. I've mentioned what I was feeling to my friend and a coworker, and they didn't think it sounded like much.
Called the doctor. They said if I felt better when I rested, then it was probably some mild uterine irritability. Take it easy and they'd see me Tuesday. I feel better about it then. My lower back is killing today, I guess I will just lay down at lunch.
I feel bad I could barely eat dinner tonight. I just kept having those weird pains, and just feeling some nausea. Ed keeps wondering if we should still go on our trip to Eastern Washington. I timed the pains I am feeling. I am not having more than 3 an hour. We'll see how I am feeling in the morning to decide if we should go.
Low, dull backache
A contraction every 10 minutes or
five or more uterine contractions in an hour.
Saturday:
I feel so much better. No more nausea. No more strange discharge. Lets go on our last little trip while I am still able to get around and not too pregnant.
I still have those feelings, but only when I sit down. I just can't believe how tired I am still.
I am so glad we came on this trip. It is good to see old friends and have them touch my belly. My strange pains actually got better last night when we went for a walk back to the hotel.
Sunday:
I am so glad that I have a doctors appointment on Tuesday. These movements or strange feelings are starting to just bug me. And I wasn't even really able to eat again last night. It is hotter over here, and I did get a bit sun burned. Kate is still moving around good and I can feel her flipping over now. It will just be nice to talk to the doctor about it all.
Monday Morning:
I feel fine. I got up to go to the bathroom, I think I did at least five times last night. I looked down and there was a few drops of blood in the toilet. I wiped and there is more blood. I called Ed. I wiped again. We called the doctor. We go directly to the closest ER.
Blood from your vagina
I was dilated to 5 cm with my fluid bag protruding from my cervix. I was given a shot of steriods. The magnesium drip was started. I was going to be helicoptered to Spokane where they would be better able to help me. Ed would have to drive as there wasn't room in the helicoptor.
HOW COULD I NOT HAVE KNOWN I WAS IN LABOR?!? THOSE PAINS WERE CONTRACTIONS! THAT DISCHARGE WAS MY MUCOUS PLUG!
HOW COME I DIDN'T COME IN TO SEE A DOCTOR SOONER?
HOW COULD I HAVE BEEN SO STUPID?
I HAD ALL THE SYMPTOMS OF PREMATURE LABOR.
I've think that I spent the better part of a year beating myself up over not knowing that I was in labor. I still think about it a lot, I still cry over my naive stupidity. I have realized that I just didn't know any better. Pregnancy is a confusing time, your body is changing everyday. You don't want to be 'that type of pregnant lady' that calls the doctor over everything. And when you call the doctor you may need to press about things if you don't feel that they are right.
I had no risks factors for premature birth. We still do not know why I went into premature labor. They were able to hold off my labor to the day of viability, 25 weeks. I received the second steroid shot 48 hours after the first. Kate was born strong and we've have survived.
I beg of you to learn the symptoms of premature labor. Tell them to other pregnant women. Advise women to go to the doctor, ER, or midwife if they are feeling any of the symptoms. Be that type of woman that calls the doctor about anything and everything. Fight for your baby and others because they can not.
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Beautiful post. You weren't stupid and I hope you don't beat yourself up anymore. We are so much smarter and will know when our body goes into labor again.
ReplyDeleteKate was definately born strong - because she's got an amazing mom.
Don't beat yourself up! You called your doc, you did all that you could! Early labor is so hard to distinguish. Like Becky said, we know now and will be better able to recognize it the next time.
ReplyDeleteKate is gorgeous. I've loved following your story this last year and look forward to watching her grow.
Hugs to my mommy twin! You make me cry.
ReplyDeleteI usually hate wearing purple but today I'll wear it in honor of you and Kate, and all the other families that fight this fight.
I don't beat myself (at least not as much), I really wanted to get it across that premature labor is hard to distinguish, especially when you are so early. Its not like in the movies always with a big gush and blood, though it can be, but I think in many cases of extreme premature labor people think they just have an upset stomach.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post. You're absolutely right, we all need to learn the signs of premature labor but also speak up whenever we think something is not quite right.
ReplyDeleteOn behalf of the March of Dimes, thanks so much for taking the time to help spread the word about the seriousness of premature birth.